第五辑 生命教育 Volume 5: Life Education
教育孩子要根据他的根基和天赋来慢慢地引导。
Educating a child should involve slow and gradual guidance based on their foundation and talents.
在学习知识和技能方面，如果孩子在某个方面的根基和天赋很普通，甚至很差，家长却高要求、高标准地强迫孩子去学，孩子会在不断的挫败感中，失去自信心，产生自卑心。慢慢地孩子就会厌学、内心放弃、消极抵抗，亲子关系会渐渐疏远、甚至内心怨恨。
In terms of acquiring knowledge and skills, if a child's foundation and talents in a particular area are average or even poor, but parents impose high demands and standards, forcing the child to learn, the child may experience constant frustration, lose confidence, and develop feelings of inferiority. Gradually, the child may become disinterested in learning, give up internally, resist passively, and the parent-child relationship may drift apart, even leading to resentment.
长大后，虽然他（她）会叫你一声爸妈，但是，他（她）内心早已淡忘了你的恩情，对你的孝顺也只是停留在表面。就像当年你对孩子一样，有时会给你脸色看，甚至骂你，极严重的可能会打你。这是值得每一位家长深思的大事情！
When they grow up, even though they may address you as mom and dad, deep inside, they have long forgotten your kindness, and their filial piety toward you remains only superficial. Just like how you were to them in the past, they might sometimes give you a hard time, even scold you, and in extreme cases, they might even resort to physical aggression. This is a significant matter that every parent should deeply reflect upon!
在语言方面，几乎所有的孩子学习语言最有天赋、也是最有兴趣的时间段是三岁到十二岁之间，在这个时间段，一定要引导他（她）多听、多背一些书。
In terms of language development, almost all children exhibit the greatest talent and interest between the ages of three and twelve. During this period, it is crucial to guide them to listen to and memorize a variety of books.
另外，在德育方面，孩子越小越好教，大了就不好教了。就像种树，幼苗歪了，掰正容易；孩子大了，就难了，他的顽劣习气就慢慢上来了。什么叫顽劣？改不动了叫顽劣。
Additionally, in terms of moral education, the younger the child, the easier it is to teach. It's like planting a tree – if a sapling is crooked, it's easy to straighten; however, as the children grow older, it becomes more difficult, and stubborn habits set in. What do we mean by stubborn habits? When it becomes hard to change, it is considered stubborn.
打小（三周岁）我们要善巧地引导他改正自己的问题——让他（她）知道犯错了，一定会遭受呵责和惩罚，当他（她）改正了、进步了，给予鼓励和奖励、让他（她）生起欢喜心，然后你再循循善诱，引导他再进一步；
From a young age (around three years old), we should skillfully guide them to correct their own mistakes. Let them know that making mistakes will result in criticism and punishment. When they make corrections and show improvement, provide encouragement and rewards, cultivating a sense of joy in their progress. Then, gently and patiently guide them to take the next step.
他又进步了，他会有一种成就感，然后你再一步一步地继续引导，这样他就会越来越愿意去改正自己的错误。当他感觉到改正自己的错误，是一件很开心的事情的时候，你的教育就成功了，这才是成功的教育。
As they continue to improve, they will experience a sense of achievement. Gradually, guide them step by step, making them more willing to correct their mistakes. When they feel that correcting their mistakes is a joyful experience, your education has succeeded; this is true success in education.
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