第五辑 生命教育 Volume 5: Life Education
作为老师和父母，都想把孩子教育好，有些孩子天生比较听话，这还好，但是如果孩子不听话，那怎么办呢？常见的办法，可能就直接打骂、训斥，但是这样一般只会更加激起孩子的逆反心，令他变得更加不听话，想改变也变得更困难。所以，教育这样的孩子，更需要智慧。
As teachers and parents, we all want to educate our children well. Some children are naturally obedient, which is good. However, if a child doesn't listen, what should be done? Common methods might involve direct scolding or punishment, but usually, this only arouses the child's rebellious spirit, making them even more disobedient and making change more difficult. Therefore, educating such children requires more wisdom.
我们教育这样的孩子，明明知道他不听，但是还要告诉他，我们要轻柔细语地跟他说：“你要这样做……”，但是他还是自以为是，按照他自己的想法做。做了之后就会引发一些不良的后果，让他痛苦，他自己会发觉：“哎呀，错了!”，然后会想到：“嗯，刚才大人是这样说的……”，当然他可能也没多大悔改之意。下一次遇到什么事，你又告诉他：“应该这样做……应该这样做……”但是他还是按照他自己的想法做，因为换了一件事情了，他又按照自己的想法去做。这样经过几次，乃至几十次，他慢慢就开始意识到要听老师、父母的话呀！每次不听话都要倒霉、都要吃苦头。这样他就慢慢地开始改正。
When educating such children, even though we know they don't listen, we still need to gently tell them, 'You should do it this way...' However, they persist in their own opinions and do things according to their own ideas. This often leads to adverse consequences, causing them distress. They eventually realize, 'Oops, I was wrong,' and then think, 'Hmm, the adult said it like that.' Of course, there may not be much remorse. The next time they encounter a situation, you tell them again, 'You should do it this way... you should do it like this...' Yet, they still follow their own ideas because it's a different situation, and they continue to do things their way. After several times, even dozens of times, they gradually begin to realize that they should listen to the teacher and parents! Every time they don't listen, they end up in trouble and suffer the consequences, so they slowly start to correct their behaviours.
受苦是件好事情啊！受苦会逼着他去改正，没有苦受，他是不会想改正的，所以我们走上正道的人都是被失败和痛苦逼出来的。
Suffering is a good thing! Suffering will force him to correct himself. Without suffering, he won't think of making corrections. Therefore, those who tread the righteous path are often compelled by failures and hardships.
教育这样的孩子需要很大的耐心，因为孩子即使改正了，也可能会出现反复，他可能这次改了，但下次，好了伤疤忘了痛，又不听话了，又得吃苦，再来听话，这样反反复复无数次，慢慢地逼着他，一步步地往正确的路上走。
Educating such children requires a great deal of patience because even if the child corrects their behaviours, there may be relapses. They might improve this time, but the next time, the lesson is forgotten, and they misbehave again. They have to face the consequences, learn the lesson, and start listening again. This cycle repeats countless times, gradually pushing them step by step towards the right path.
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